Heartburn #4 - The Right Person Myth
The Right Person Myth
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We believe the lie that with the “right person” nothing could go bad and neglect the need to develop real love relationship skills Paul describes in 1 Corinthians 13. In the euphoria of physical interaction and chemistry we say, “I don’t need to develop patience, because this person I am in love with will never do anything to cause me to be impatient.”
However, once you say, “I do” all your problems and flaws will not magically disappear. In fact your single people problems will follow you to the wedding altar. The neglect of your relationship for the sake of passion will ultimately bring things to a close, leaving people in frustration to seek out yet another “right person” sometimes leading to really ugly situations.
You don’t need to get caught in this repetitive cycle. If you are already with someone turn down the physical and turn up the relational. If you’re single, don’t wait to meet someone to practice being someone who loves the way Jesus loved. Use every opportunity to grow in Godly love with the people around you.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
Relationships requires effort. 1 Corinthians 13:11, “When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.” In real life, it’s not happily ever after (the end) as in the movies. Rather marriage is part of an ongoing story.
What story are you already writing in the way you show love? Does it reflect Jesus?