Fear of Being Alone
We can’t fear being alone because God wants to meet you on your own. He desires to meet with us in order to fuel, restore, and reveal hidden riches to our heart.
If you are fueling your heart in a Godly way when you are alone, you can come to others with a much greater capacity to give out of the overflow of his life in you. You will also come out your alone times feeling revitalized and better able to enter into community. For it says, “Then Jesus declared, "I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty” - John 6:35. Jesus is our bread & water for our soul and spirit. Through him we are deeply satisfied.
What you do when you are alone matters!
“YOUR HEART” (See Picture)
- Are you fueling your heart and life by meditating on things of God and seeking out new ways to engage in life with others. (Creating a Wealthy Godly Situation in your Heart)
- Are you stewing in dark places, starving your heart and passing time? (Creating a Poverty Situation in your Heart)?
The Wealthy Heart. “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed” - Luke 5:15. There was an intentionally of the Life of Jesus that was characterized by frequent periods of time when he would withdraw from the people around him. He would be on his own. Jesus modeled for us a purposeful demonstration of what it means to retreat and move away from the crowds.
He did this in a healthy way and with purposeful intention to be refreshed by his Father. We cannot FEAR being alone because if we avoid being alone altogether we will miss out on divine appointments and opportunity for God to directly speak.
There are riches waiting for you in the quiet where you will meet with Jesus. Colossians 2:2-3 “My goal is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ, 3 in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.”
The Poverty Heart. Being alone without God, not keeping our hearts satisfied in him, or living in absence of healthy community will allow loneliness to dominate our lives. It can put you into a place where you begin to desperately grasp us for things to fill you.
If not careful you can start to medicate it in unhealthy ways giving birth to addictions, neediness or unrealistic expectations of people, low-self-esteem, isolation, depression, or anger towards God can be fostered. Or you can begin to compromise relationtionaly. Particularly singles! You may know a certain person is not good news for you and they are not even walking in faith. Yet, because there someone to be with… you compromise your faith or values. You fear being alone, so you make being with someone an idol that competes with the companionship of God.
God wants to speak truths about his character, your identity, and actions into your heart of poverty.
Allow these truths to sink into your heart and redirect you towards healthier relationships with God and others.
- “I will never leave or forsake you”
In our alone moments we can fixate on what is not there. Leading us to believe that if only I had __________. Then I would not feel this ache in my heart. But would the deepest cravings of your flesh truly satisfy you, if you are living without the fullness of God's life pumping through your veins. The truth is God will never leave or forsake you.“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave or forsake you.” - Hebrews 13:5
Your Identity in Christ…
- “You are loved.”
God loves you. Do you do life out of the overflow of knowing you are loved by God?
You are loved by the father and are his child and have rich inheritance because you are with the Father. You are his son or daughter. We live in that understanding of who we are…God wants to bring you out of the places of poverty you find in your heart. “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God. who loved me and gave himself for me.” - Galatians 2:20
Call to Action!
- "You need friends."
In order to do that, you may have to get out of your comfort zone a bit. You may have to actually be intentional with people and build that community of faith. “Not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another--and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” - Hebrews 10:25
God, I know I will feel alone at times. Thank you that your desire for me to have a full life in you, but also that you have provided me others to do life alongside. Help me to look at my times when we I am alone without fear, but with anticipation of what you can speak into my life. I thank you that there are times in my life where we may even need to fly solo for a specific divine purpose, mission, or season. Bring my spirit awareness to unhealthy ways I have been using my alone times.
I’m never out of your sight, I am deeply loved, and you will provide.
May I pour out your life increasingly as you pour into me.
Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. – Psalm 62:5